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True Love isn’t Waiting, Anymore

We caught this article on the CNN belief blog (which referenced an article in Relevant) and were intrigued by the conclusions.

While the study’s primary report did not explore religion, some additional analysis focusing on sexual activity and religious identification yielded this result: 80 percent of unmarried evangelical young adults (18 to 29said that they have had sex – slightly less than 88 percent of unmarried adultsaccording to the teen pregnancy prevention organization.

Yet the article also asks a question that rarely comes up in discussions about abstinence movement. Relevant notes that in biblical times, people married earlier. The average age for marriage has been increasing in the U.S for the last 40 years.

Today, it’s not unusual to meet a Christian who is single at 30 – or 40 or 50, for that matter. So what do you tell them? Keep waiting?

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Here are two thoughts I had as I read this article and the dozens of others which sprang up from the discussion.

  1. Why are adults so fascinated with adolescent sexuality? What does it say about US to care so much about what they do or don’t do sexually? After all, this generation didn’t invent pre-marital sex any more than ours did?
  2. We simply cannot argue for both waiting for marriage to have sex and waiting until your 30 to get married. (Average age of a males first marriage is now 28.5!)
As you interact with these articles, what’s on your mind? How do these findings and this discussion impact your day-to-day youth ministry?
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4 thoughts on “True Love isn’t Waiting, Anymore

  1. I find it interesting that this has come up quite a bit in blogs the last couple of days. I was reading a related post over at Tony Jone’s blog and I would suggest reading the two or three articles that are referenced in his blog. Here is the link http://www.patheos.com/blogs/tonyjones/2011/10/31/stop-what-youre-doing-and-read-this-post-on-christian-sex/

  2. I think that the culture has always cared about adolescent sexuality from what we have been taught about sex from the Bible and the experiences resulting from sex before marriage. However, as the culture continues to want to be young, and thus adolescence continues to be extended, the culture is now caught between asking the “kids” to remain pure, and waiting for a long time before “losing it.”

    I think that this waiting until you’re older to get married is the wrong way to go. It seems that we teach the healing power of Christ and transformation early (maybe teach is the wrong word), so that adolescents are ready for adult decisions at a younger age, like marriage.

    Just an initial thought.

  3. I always find these articles and studies amusing. I’m 29 and still waiting for marriage and still waiting til marriage until I have sex. There are some of us out there. I know several other friends who have been able to wait as well. As for the getting married earlier plan. I’m all for it, but marriage is one thing I can’t just make happen! For whatever reason, I’m still single.
    I just think it’s funny to read all these articles about poor 30 year old virgins.
    It can be done! And I swear I don’t sit in my apartment with cats and piles of books and no friends. 🙂

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