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The Dreaded C-Word in Women’s Events

the-c-wordEvery time I see an invitation for a women’s event, I scan for the dreaded C-word (also known as the C-which-shall-not-be-named). It’s usually there, even if it’s sometimes disguised as a synonym, or merely alluded to.

The C-word is my exit cue to be honest. It’s a sure-fire sign that particular event is not for me.

There’s nothing wrong with women get all gooey eyed when they see the C-which-shall-not-be-named, don’t get me wrong. I have many, many friends who loooove the C-word. As a matter of fact, almost every Christmas I receive well-intended gifts sprung forth from C. And I appreciate them because of the love behind them.

But personally, I abhor the C-word. My fine motor skills suck, patience has never been one of my virtues, I’m a perfectionist in the extreme who lacks the skills to match reality with her vision, plus I’m way too goal-oriented to spend hours on something that feels like wasting time. I’m creative—just not with my hands.

My problem is that most women’s events include the C-which-shall-not-be-named however. Plus I’m kind of ashamed to admit how I feel about C. I mean, it has made my doubt my femininity, you know?

But after years of suffering in silence and anonymity, I feel it’s time to take a stand. It’s time to come right out and admit how I feel. I long to stand with others who feel the same way.

And while I realize us C-haters may be a minority, we need to be heard. We need a safe place where we can be ourselves. I mean, seriously, there’s trauma here people. I could be suffering from all kinds of nasty things from forced exposure to C.

So as a gesture to all you C-haters out there (you know who you are—and it’s okay, I promise you. You can hate C and still be a woman!), here’s my promise to you:

I do solemny swear that there will be no crafts at the Women in Youth Ministry Campference

My name is Rachel and I hate crafts.

There, I feel so much better now.

Rachel Blom is from The Netherlands originally and has over 15 years of experience in youth ministry in several countries. She’s an author, blogger, avid reader and a walking encyclopedia of completely useless facts. She lives in upstate New York with her family and is on the core organizing team of the Women in Youth Ministry Campference. Find her youth ministry blog on

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8 thoughts on “The Dreaded C-Word in Women’s Events

  1. LOVE This! SO GOOD. so funny! thanks! :^)

    1. Glad to hear that 🙂

    2. Yes!!! This is my favorite blog post of all time! Thank you Rachel!!!!!

      1. Yeah, I pegged you for a C-hater too Theresa 🙂

  2. Thank you!

    1. Believe me, you’re more than welcome!

  3. Rachel,

    You are correct. I feel the same when it comes to women’s events. Crafts (as defined by the 1980’s and 1990’s craft era are no bueno). However, pinterest projects are another thing all together. I LOVE them. When they help me illuminate the incredible brain trust that is youth ministry. When they expose the dept of our searching. When they test our efforts and require teamwork. I like stuff that shines a light on the stuff we work so very hard to pray over and produce. I like to choose my “crafts” wisely. most of the time our “crafts” work themselves out in environmental engineering and project development. I’m that sort of creative, I’m guessing you are too. Thanks for being you. Loads of love from Florida today.

    1. Oh, I love Pinterest. I love pictures of Pinterest #FAILS even more 🙂 No seriously, I get what you’re saying. Crafts with a deeper message, that I could live with. I’ve been known to even experiment a bit myself with stuff like that to get the message across….but don’t tell anyone 🙂 A big hug from a very cold New York…I envy your sunshine 🙂

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