Every time I see an invitation for a women’s event, I scan for the dreaded C-word (also known as the C-which-shall-not-be-named). It’s usually there, even if it’s sometimes disguised as a synonym, or merely alluded to.
The C-word is my exit cue to be honest. It’s a sure-fire sign that particular event is not for me.
There’s nothing wrong with women get all gooey eyed when they see the C-which-shall-not-be-named, don’t get me wrong. I have many, many friends who loooove the C-word. As a matter of fact, almost every Christmas I receive well-intended gifts sprung forth from C. And I appreciate them because of the love behind them.
But personally, I abhor the C-word. My fine motor skills suck, patience has never been one of my virtues, I’m a perfectionist in the extreme who lacks the skills to match reality with her vision, plus I’m way too goal-oriented to spend hours on something that feels like wasting time. I’m creative—just not with my hands.
My problem is that most women’s events include the C-which-shall-not-be-named however. Plus I’m kind of ashamed to admit how I feel about C. I mean, it has made my doubt my femininity, you know?
But after years of suffering in silence and anonymity, I feel it’s time to take a stand. It’s time to come right out and admit how I feel. I long to stand with others who feel the same way.
And while I realize us C-haters may be a minority, we need to be heard. We need a safe place where we can be ourselves. I mean, seriously, there’s trauma here people. I could be suffering from all kinds of nasty things from forced exposure to C.
So as a gesture to all you C-haters out there (you know who you are—and it’s okay, I promise you. You can hate C and still be a woman!), here’s my promise to you:
I do solemny swear that there will be no crafts at the Women in Youth Ministry Campference
My name is Rachel and I hate crafts.
There, I feel so much better now.
Rachel Blom is from The Netherlands originally and has over 15 years of experience in youth ministry in several countries. She’s an author, blogger, avid reader and a walking encyclopedia of completely useless facts. She lives in upstate New York with her family and is on the core organizing team of the Women in Youth Ministry Campference. Find her youth ministry blog on www.youthleadersacademy.com